Joy@Work #1 Do you have joy? Choices and changes in work and life
How to have ‘Joy @ Work’!
An 8-part series providing practical suggestions for you to have increased Joy@Work
There are two main themes running through these chapters, they are:
ways to manage change and
how little things can make a big positive difference.
Chapter 1 – Do you have joy? - Choices and changes in work and life
Chapter 2 - Reciprocity - Giving and getting
Chapter 3 - Dancing with change – The hoodoos and how dos
Chapter 4 - Little joys – Try an ikigai outlook
Chapter 5 - The power of just two words – ‘Thank you!’
Chapter 6 - The joy of strain - Put your colander to work
Chapter 7 - Call ADOCTA – No failing - I’m changing
Chapter 8 - Change Maker you! - The musical metaphor, play to your strengths
The chapters will be published over the coming weeks.
Do you have joy?
Choices and changes in work and life
Might you consider ‘joy’ and ‘work’ in the same sentence?
I imagine that for many of you that is not an easy combination.
Let’s explore this concept and how it may be of benefit to you.
Work in this definition, is whatever you do that takes up most of your time - it may be in an office, factory, farm, home, school – anywhere you spend most of your waking hours.
Then, I would like to define ‘Joy’, as:
Your natural state and the experience of a life that works
Knowing you are resilient through any situation
Feeling a deep well of contentment and happiness in you
Recognising that you know you are in control of your responses
Being consciously and realistically positive and
Experiencing a life where you choose to maintain your joyous equilibrium regardless of what is happening about you.
I believe that is how we were meant to be on this planet, but you may have forgotten, or even worse, fear you do not deserve joy. Even more injurious is that you may think that if you dare to wish for joy you may not get it, so it is better just to remain passive and accepting of your ‘lot’.
If you feel you need to remember and re-cultivate your natural joy, there is a programme which covers six topics, called ‘The Joy Journey’ (please see the Appendix for details), all designed to remind you how you can return to your natural Joy Quotient, if you should so wish. However, in this chapter, you may explore strategies for coping with choices and change, these are other words for ‘life’. Consciously being aware that you have choices in every situation is a real joy enhancer.
You may ask, how and where does the concept of joy fit for the business executive, the working person, the overworked, tired, stressed and nearly burnt out individual – YOU - on a daily basis?
And the response is, “Easily, and smack in the centre of all things!”
How can I say ‘easily’ and ‘smack in the centre of all things’?
‘Easily’, because mostly there is not anything else extra for you to DO on top of your already overfull schedule. These are some simple eye-openers, that will change your whole outlook, and with that, your Joy Quotient can be increased. And why ‘smack in the centre of all things’? Because when you feel deeply joyous, all of life’s ups and downs will still be there, but you will have coping strategies – everything benefits: your quality of work; your quality of communication; your quality of relationships; the quality of your health and your quality of life. Worth you reading on?
Because you may be very focussed, busy and driven, it is rather easy for the years to slip by. Suddenly you are faced with a birthday with an “0” at the end of it… and it is on that morning you abruptly wonder, “Where DID the last 10 years go?” At times like this you may consider the quality of your life, how much joy do you experience? What were the last 10 years’ worth? What have you achieved? What really matters? Do you feel content?
You may well be a bit sceptical and ask for some concrete examples. How can I increase my potential for joy? Well, let’s dive in at the deep end! Like many others, you may think you are your job! “Who are you?” gets the reply, “I am a manager / executive / CEO / presenter / author / parent / house-person / teacher / sibling / doctor / nurse”. You probably have many roles at the same time. You become a human DO-ing! You identify yourself as a job title. When you retire or are made redundant or have your job changed around you, or people in your life go or come, your whole identity can be shaken. This may lead to stress levels rising to the extent of causing physical sickness, depression, severe mental upset and even premature death.
On the other hand, you may take the view that these are roles you are playing in the great drama of the “Life of Me”. By all means, play your part as fully and as enthusiastically as you can. However, when your roles change – and we all know they will change, and probably many times over - instead of causing yourself a great deal of upset, just give yourself a round of applause for a good performance so far, and explore how best to play your next roles?
If you are not a human DO-ing, just performing actions to complete your various roles, but are as your name says, a human BE-ing, then what is your beingness?
One concept you may wish to consider is that there is a central ‘place’ inside you where you can experience joy, stability, strength, love and personal power. Regardless of what happens around you, you may tap into a constant, perfect, peace-filled and loving atmosphere at your very core, your ‘joy space’. Why not try this for size and see how it fits for you; does it bring you more stability, contentment and joy?
This simple shift of awareness can change radically how you respond at both the deepest, and everyday surface levels. When you answer someone from your central ‘joy space’, the quality of your reply is bound to be different from a possibly defensive, ego driven response, and interestingly the quality of the reply you receive may also be quite different; and even if the reaction isn’t different, you have managed to maintain your own inner calm and joy. You have made the choice in a difficult situation, for your own well-being.
This is a really BIG joy awareness shift. You can quite easy get it in theory, and now you may want to find out how to put it into your life as a skill to build. Even this is not difficult, because all you need to do is ‘catch yourself joy-less’ and gearshift up to your central joy space. The aim is to catch yourself faster and faster, so you suffer less and less, and have more and more JOY! The following chapters will provide you with more coping strategies for dealing with change by making a choice that serves you rather than undermines you.
Below is the map of the full ‘Joy Journey’ programme.
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