• Simon Phillips


Updated: Dec 6, 2019

Manage the changin' TIME Festive Holiday Horrors can bring - with Mind Chi!


And here is the fourth of the series of articles with practical ideas for managing the

Festive Holiday Horrors. The impact of time is always felt, sometimes more acutely than others - festive holiday times, tend to exacerbate this panic. I hope this provides some support, reminders and assistance.

4. The TIME Festive Holiday Horror and the Mind Chi way to overcome

How much TIME it all takes!

Hit the road running and don’t stop until you collapse! If there is one universal it is how much TIME is needed on TOP of an already overwhelming, jam-packed schedule. No wonder you feel beat!

Your heart sinks and you get that whizzy feeling in your stomach every time you

contemplate the impossible list of things that HAVE to be done – not even to think about what you might LIKE to do!

If you normally do not have enough time, then you will certainly NOT have

enough now. Still you push yourself harder and harder, get up earlier; dash

through the day; squeezing activities in every second that you can; skiving off

work a bit; doing your personal things on work time, when you hope no-one is

watching; staying up later; skipping meals and grabbing some ‘fast food’;

falling into bed absolutely exhausted. ‘And I am supposed to be HAPPY??!!’

Everyone is expecting this and that from you and worse you have accepted their

rules and are killing yourself to try to make it all happen. Watch the faces of

the people in the shops or as they drive their cars, do they look happy?

And, may I ask, how do you look?

You need to find TIME to select gifts; wrap gifts; pack and post gifts; (return gifts!)

buy food; cook food; arrange parties and family gatherings; attend parties and

family gatherings; maybe travel; buy decorations; put up your decorations; buy cards, if you still do this! Post cards; open and read cards from others; buy your holiday outfit; see

friends; listen to friend’s woes and ALL of your ‘usual’ jobs as well! You need help!

Time pressures are not new changes, but they are exacerbated by all the additional frenzy of the season, how can you change your thinking to help push back.

You can probably add some more TIME horrors as well. So, what to do?

Mind Chi Festive Holiday Happiness – PUSH BACK!

It is TIME to grab back your reins of control. There are 24 hours in a day, we all

have the same and what is CRUCIAL is to make the best use of them. What does

that mean? You can’t do much to change all that happens out there, however, you

CAN make some easy and profound changes for how YOU respond.

Again, begin by STOPPING and breathe deep and full breaths for a minute.

Think about those closest and most important to you and jot a few things that

you may wish to do for or with them. Think of the things that make the memories

you will treasure in the future. Then think of your ‘usual’ to do list and

CROSS OFF some of those items, the key point is that YOU CANNOT DO IT ALL!

For each festive thing that you add, remove a ‘usual’ thing, many things won’t matter if they are left for a few days. You need the big picture – what and who is most

important and ditch (or delay) the rest.

An effective Mind Chi step here is #7 – ‘future 24 hours’. Here you think of what

you need to do in the upcoming 24 hours and most importantly how you would want

to BE do as do them. Look at the faces as you go about – are they smiling and

happy or scowling and harassed? Time is such a malleable commodity, so set your

timer and lose yourself in the joy of some seasonal activity. Plan how to BE!

Use your brain power to PUSH BACK. Every day, in future you may wish to start in November, and carve a little ‘DISCRETIONARY TIME’ – moments that YOU get to choose what you do, even if it is NOTHING!

Use your inquiring brain, you may be amazed by something that you were going to burst a blood vessel over can vaporise if you ask ‘Might I do this later?’ or ‘Do you really

need this now?’ or ‘Could I leave this out?’ You may find it just literally melts away before you.

Question all those things you think you ‘should’ and ‘aught’ to do (more information on

this in Horror 8) such as sending festive cards, if you are using it to be in touch, then begin a phone rota or send an email. STOP the silliness of giving cards to people you see frequently, just say, ‘Thank you, and I am wishing you (with a hug if appropriate) a Happy (fill in the festivity) too’.

Review all the gift giving. You might want to give a gift for the person’s birthday and

only a token over the general festivities. Or better still; give a gift of your TIME or FOOD to someone less fortunate in their honour or on their behalf.

Set a new ritual, it doesn’t have to be what it always was. In fact, with the changing

family structure it seldom is. So, create a new way to celebrate.

Be ‘in the flow’ – there are days when you can have a directive goal, but not its’ specifics,

and just flow through, taking plenty of breaks and achieve a wonderful amount, and feel RELAXED at the end of the day.

To recap, the 8 positive actions for Mind Chi Festive Holiday Happiness to overcome the Horror of TIME are:

1. PUSH BACK by setting yourself time limits, ‘I will only take one hour in these shops’.

2. PUSH BACK by giving yourself a reward when done as procrastination wastes time. 3. PUSH BACK by grouping friends and activities for ONE meeting or journey.

4. PUSH BACK by re-assessing what you really NEED or WANT to do.

5. PUSH BACK do Mind Chi step 7 – BE as you want for your activities in the next 24 hours

6. PUSH BACK by not doing some of your ‘usual’ tasks, somethings must go!

7. PUSH BACK by saying ‘NO!’ (Nicely) and questioning your ‘shoulds’ and ‘aughts’.

8. PUSH BACK by creating new rituals and crafting ‘flow’ days for you to enjoy.

The Change Maker Group are people who have mastered the skills for managing change.

They too face the constant change and understand your situation. We provide ‘Smart Mirror Coaching’ an on-demand coaching service that may just be what you need to help you through this time.

Please do contact us with any issues where we may be able to assist community@thechangemakergroup.com .

Building your resilience in just 8-minutes a day with the Mind Chi routine can also

boost your strength and ability to find joy in the season, here is a free gift

of the 8 Mind Chi steps: http://www.mindchi.com/mind-chi-basic-8-steps/

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